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10 Holiday Sober SaversConnie Carpenter Holidays are loaded with triggers. Memories, family situations, and extra demands for your time are all difficult to manage. While at the same time, living in recovery, especially when your newly sober , has its own assortment of challenges.. Keep the following 10 Sobriety Savers close by as the holidays draw near. Hopefully they will be helpful as tools to assist you in keeping things on track and also when you become .... overwhelmed ..shall we say 1. Start preparing NOW Dont save your shopping, decorating, cooking, wrapping, and cleaning for the last minute. That is too much pressure for anyone. This is the year to be organized, so youll have time to enjoy the season in sobriety. If you cant get something done, just let it go with no regrets. 2. Attend your meetings TIS the season! Dont let social invitations distract you from recovery. Youll find a meeting invaluable when you happen to come up against a trigger or some craving. If you start feeling down, or really dont feel like going to a meeting--THIS, is when you really do need to go. That hour of your time may save your life. 3. Dont take on new commitments just isnt a good idea. Let someone take care of you this year. If asked to do something you may find too stressful simply say, "Im sorry. Im doing some developmental work and Im just too busy to give the attention it deserves.." Making Christmas dinner for 50 people or example, will not help you relax and stay focused on your recovery. 4. Before planning the family reunions To be sure you can count on understanding from your family, express your need to celebrate Christmas quietly at home this year. Perhaps you could visit with family and friends before or after the holiday party to share a dessert and catch up on the family news together. 5. Honor the day Be aware that emotions are more sensitive during holidays. We all have high expectations that cant be met . Family reunions stir up old feelings like jealousy, resentment .Dont let them creep thru--even when you see cousin Pete who still owes you $500.handing out 20$ dollar bills. Youve waited this long, whats 1 more day Enjoy your family, enjoy feeling gratitude for your life, and the sobriety to enjoy it. 6. When you must attend Select carefully the events you will attend. Use your own transportation Consider the location, people who will be there and the how much a part they are of your problem. Bring someone who supports your sobriety Work out a signal, just in case, you start getting a familiar feeling in your gut. you know that means trouble Pull on your ear ala Carol Burnett or fold your arms and wink. Thank your host say goodnight and get the heck out of there 7. Count your blessings Take the time to compare how your life changed from last year, what you thought this year was going to be if you didnt get sober and just take a moment to dream what next year will be , if you stay on the path Count your blessings ,say a prayer of gratitude and tell the people on your list how thankful you are they are in your life. this not only reinforces your commitment, but also makes them feel great . 8. Use phone numbers you have When someone is newly sober ,they can only benefit by being in the company of others also in recovery. Sometimes just being in contact will serve to reinforce the determination you have to remain sober. Use the phone numbers you have collected from the people in the rooms.They wont be bothered ,in fact its more then likely you will provide reinforcement for them also. Espcially when they dont know they need it !! 9. Have a plan Dont leave large blocks of time unaccounted for ,take a look at your planner now , if you see any potential chunks of time when you will be alone plan ahead ,try a new meeting , phone a friend or relative with children , offer to sit them for a few hours ,youll be a godsend and time with the children will refresh your outlook. While some time alone is a good thing too much alone time is not healthy. 10. Savor the moment. Congratulations !!!! You have made it , youve come all this way. Get yourself something , you deserve the best Enjoy the thrill of your victory. Share it with someone special , spend it with your SELF. Simply , acknowledge it This is your moment , you have earned it .,It doesnt matter if you have a year or 24 hours , your sober and no matter what happens next , This moment will always be exactly what is is now... Your moment to shine
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