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Is There An Anxiety Solution For Those Who Fail To Keep Their Resolutions?
In a nutshell... YES! I've given a lot of thought recently to the power of 'resolutions' ? to that basic human instinct that continually drives us to improve ourselves and to expand our horizons. Perhaps you're reading this now and resolving to finally conquer your anxiety? The trouble with resolutions, however, is sticking to them! All too often, within weeks, they've fallen by the wayside. Why is that? Why do we all struggle so much to maintain our resolve? To my mind, 'resolve' and 'resolution' are in themselves anxiety-inducing words! What do I mean?? Well, just consider the word RESOLVE. It resounds with a sense of determination? demanding immense effort. It also calls upon you to SOLVE something? to remedy a problem? to seek out that elusive 'Holy Grail' alone. And don't we ALL have some aspect of our life that needs a 'solution'? EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US! It comes with living life to the full! RESOLUTIONS require us to take a long hard look at our lives. They demand we show an honest recognition of the need for change? and often this can be the hardest part of any new resolution. Little wonder, then, that resolutions fill us with trepidation! Suddenly, we have to face up to a PROBLEM or a CHALLENGE. Then we have to decide on a course of action for CHANGE. Then we have to find the SOLUTION. And through it all, we have to maintain our RESOLVE. Pretty daunting! Especially for those of us with personal experience of the debilitating affects of anxiety. So let me try to make it a little bit easier for you! Just be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break and understand that you can't solve everything? and certainly not at once. You have to take that pressure off yourself. Don't take too much on and try to implement lots of changes? this would be scary even to non-anxiety sufferers! Oh, and don't worry about all the 'detail' - the weight loss? the job application process? the dating game? the college course? the house move. Don't be side-tracked by them? And certainly don't beat yourself up if these changes don't happen all at once! Remember, it's early days! I remember when I was anxious and I felt that every aspect of my life was wrong. I just wanted to change everything at once? to be a totally different person living a totally different life. But it felt like I was asking for the impossible, I felt beaten before I'd even begun to make a single change. There was just too much to deal with at once. Well, I found that the simple SOLUTION is to make just ONE RESOLUTION. And when you live with anxiety, there is only ONE RESOLUTION you should be making ? only ONE RESOLUTION which will magic away all the 'detail', which will bring about all the 'changes' you want in your life. And that ONE RESOLUTION is? I AM GOING TO BE ANXIETY FREE TODAY? AND FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE I know what you're thinking?. That's easy for you to say! Well, YES it is! But, what have you got to lose? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING - except your anxiety! The rest of your life is all there for the taking? but as with all resolutions, you have to be prepared to make that choice for change, that RESOLUTION, to face up to and resolve the anxiety. Charles Linden specialises in the treatment of anxiety symptoms. Learn how to cure yourself of Anxiety quickly, permanently and get Free access to a valuable interview done with Charles by the BBC visit: http://beatanxiety.amazon-4u.com
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