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Exploring Beneath The Surface
Unwanted feelings and thoughts are rich territory to dive beneath the surface for fresh insights that open the heart. Imagine for a moment that you are floating along on the ocean of feelings unwilling to accept that the choppy waves to your left signify anger. If you put on snorkeling gear and dive under them, you will see a whole new world. Beneath the anger you will most likely find a hurt or a fear. Complete the following sentences with yourself:
Remember, avoid assigning personal meaning to these feelings. (I'm such a terrible person for feeling and thinking this way.) Just swim around with your snorkel securely in place, investigation the fear and hurt that lies beneath the anger. Surface briefly and reflect about the role your anger plays. Here are a few possibilities:
Now take a deep breath and dive again, looking next to the fear or hurt for a judgement it may have spawned, such as the following:
Chronic reactive angry responses can disrupt relationships, derail important business deals, and cause high blood pressure. Unexpected fear can freeze us in mid-sentence, hold us back from speaking our truth. The heart ? the energetic center of acceptance and loving ? shuts down when you adopt black and white thinking. Desperately needing to stay in control of life and make sense of the world, you resort to rejecting what you see as wrong (bad, inappropriate, immoral) and cling to what you see as right (good, appropriate, moral). When the heart opens, making sense of the world is not as important as being happy, finding lasting peace, feeling healthy and stress free, and getting a good night's sleep. Restraining from taking a position about the world, other's behavior, your performance at work allows the heart to thaw out revealing depths of information that quiets fear and loosens the grip of control. You then can live authentically rather than self-righteously. Questions for Letting Go of Black/White Thinking: Snorkeling can open the mind to what is really going on in your ocean of feelings. But only self-acceptance can uncover these truths and open the heart. © 2003, Rebecca Skeele, Author, Coach, Counselor You may publish this article on your website or for personal use as long as the article remains unchanged and the signature file is included. Notification of use is appreciated. About The Author New Strategies for Living Well
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