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Relationship Advice: 5 Tips to Make a Strong Marriage Even Better
1. Time together is time during which the complete focus is on each other. That means no TV, no newspaper, no kids. I know, I know, that's hard in our over-busy culture. But stop and consider for a moment: Can you think of many things that are really more important? "So what do we do with this time together?" you might ask. Simple: Talk to each other. That sound you hear is all the husbands moaning and groaning and feeling betrayed that another male is actually suggesting this to their wives. Be that as it may, there is no substitute for talking to each other on a regular basis. This can be about almost anything, as long as it is mutual. 2. Many of us had the word "honor" in our wedding vows. So what does it really mean, anyway? Webster's defines honor in this way: "to hold in the highest esteem." Consider what your marriage might be like if you viewed your partner as precious to you, as someone to hold in the highest esteem. What would it feel like to be treated in this way by your partner? Might you then want to return the honor? 3. Many people believe apologies are a show of weakness. Quite the opposite is true. The ability to apologize shows a strength of character that is a strong predictor of successful marriages. Often, the apology has more benefit to the one giving it than the one receiving it. 4. Everyone likes to feel appreciated. There are at least two ways to demonstrate appreciation. One is to show appreciation for things that have been done. This might sound like, "Thank you for taking the kids to the doctor," or, "Thank you for understanding when I felt sick today." Sometimes, an even stronger form of appreciation is for the positive qualities of a person. This could sound like, "I really appreciate your sense of humor," or, "I appreciate your patience with me." Either way, a little appreciation can go a long way. 5. It's important that you share with each other your hopes and dreams. Anticipating together has at least three benefits: It helps couples to bond with each other; it gives hope for the future; it gives couples "light at the end of the tunnel" in the tough times that come in all relationships. So there you have them, five quick and easy things you can do to improve even the best of relationships. Here is one more thing to consider: What could your relationship be like if you were able to do these five things regularly? Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.
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